The Sacrament of Holy Matrimony

Marriage is one of the seven Sacraments and should be entered into with great reverence, discernment and preparation. For this reason, we ask that couples wishing to get married at the Cathedral of Saint Patrick be actively participating in the life of the Catholic Church prior to the wedding.

How to Schedule a Wedding at St. Patrick Cathedral (Charlotte)

The Cathedral welcomes a bride and groom to hold their wedding at the Cathedral if the man and/or woman are baptized, practicing Catholics, are free to be married (e.g., no prior valid marriages), are psychologically mature and capable of consenting to the marriage. The bride and/or groom must also be registered at a Catholic parish. Catholics who have not yet received the sacrament of Confirmation are to receive the sacrament before being admitted to marriage if this can be done without grave inconvenience, and cohabitating couples must separate for at least six months prior to the wedding.

For couples who are members of the Cathedral, potential wedding dates will be discussed at the first marriage preparation meeting with the Cathedral’s priest or deacon. Those couples who are parishioners of the Cathedral of Saint Patrick must be registered, active members of the parish for at least six months before they can start the marriage preparation process and set a wedding date. To be an active member means:

1. Attending Mass at the Cathedral every Sunday,
2. Supporting the parish financially,
3. Verifying Mass attendance through the use of the parish’s stewardship envelopes and
4. Between first registration in the parish and a wedding at The Cathedral of Saint Patrick, at least one full year must elapse.

Couples who are not members of the Cathedral can hold their wedding at the Cathedral if the bride and groom are free to marry, if one or both are registered members of a Catholic parish, and if proper permission is provided by the couple's Catholic pastor. To schedule a wedding date, the couple's Catholic pastor needs to mail a letter to the pastor of the Cathedral with the following information:

• A statement that the bride and/or groom are registered members of a Catholic church.
• A statement that the pastor or someone he designates will complete the marriage preparation.
• A statement from the pastor providing his permission for the wedding to take place at the Cathedral on ________ date and ______ time.
• A statement from the pastor as to who will officiate at the wedding. If the clergy member who will officiate is not a member of the pastor’s parish, a separate letter must be sent to the Cathedral's pastor from the clergy member who will officiate. The letter must be received before the wedding can be scheduled.
• The letter should also include all the contact information (address, phone, email) for both the bride and the groom, including the address where the couple will be living after the wedding if that address is known.

Once the letter of permission is received, if the requested wedding date is available, a rental agreement will be emailed to the couple and a confirmation letter will be sent to the couple’s pastor. Once the deposit, the rental agreement, and the request from the officiant (if required) are received, then the wedding date will be added to the Cathedral’s wedding calendar.

For couples who are active members of the Cathedral of Saint Patrick for at least six months before starting the marriage preparation process, the Cathedral wedding fee is $900.00. For couples who are active members of another Catholic parish and have the necessary permission from their pastor, the wedding fee is $1,350.00. In both instances, the wedding fee includes the use of the church and the services of the Cathedral's wedding coordinator and music director/organist. 

The goal of the marriage preparation program is to help couples to be open to God's grace so that they can have a happy and fulfilling sacramental marriage. The marriage preparation process also seeks to foster a clear awareness of the essential characteristics of Catholic marriage - unity, fidelity, indissolubility, fruitfulness - and to help you discover the value of the sacraments and the experience of prayer. The program also provides education and support in the values concerning the defense of human life and the nature and importance of married sexuality, in keeping with the authentic teachings of the Church. In addition to meetings with a priest or deacon, couples who complete their marriage preparation in the Diocese of Charlotte are required to attend a one-day marriage encounter retreat. These workshops provide the couple a chance to explore various areas of marriage and family life and consist of presentations, panels, and small group discussions. While your wedding lasts a day; your marriage lasts a lifetime.

For more information about weddings at the Cathedral of Saint Patrick, please contact Debra Lemmon at (704) 334-2283.83

• The Cathedral Wedding Guidelines
• Preparing for Your Marriage
• Getting Married in the Catholic Church
• Are You Ready to Get Married?
• Intimacy and Cohabitation
• Natural Family Planning